Thursday, January 29, 2009

Ruan Van Tubbergh

Dear Friends,

I am hearbroken to tell you that our little friend Ruan, has gone home to be with His Heavenly Father

I want to thank you all so much for praying so hard for him all these months, and i ask you to please pray extra hard for his mommy Yolandie and his grandparents – who have been the most devoted courageous family to this amazing soldier of God. Yolandie and Ruan have been in and out of hospitals since April 2007, he was diagnosed round 9 months of age, and his recent stay was over 6 months , with half the time being in ICU. Ruan seemed to have beat the leukaemia, but suffered terrible side effects after having two stem cell transplants last year, especially relating to his precious lungs. He would’ve turned 3 on 17 July.

We met Ruan in July 2007, when Deqlan was having treatment at little Company of Mary – Ruan and Yolandie immediately crept into our hearts and we became great friends. Deqlan and Ruan used to visit each other in their rooms, even if it was just a quick hello through the glass door. Yolandie is a single mom , who had to stop working in order to look after Ruan, and her parents, who live in Vereeniging, looked after her and Ruan -driving through nearly every day to be with them. They are the most devoted, loving , positive family we have had the pleasure of meeting on this journey . Yolandie and I pick each other up on the days we need it the most. Yolandie, you are the most amazing woman i have ever met. Your positivity, your faith and trust in Our Lord, your courage, the heartache you must have endured for so many months – you are a true women of God and He is going to carry you in the moments and days and years to come.

I will never forget walking past Ruans room, and blowing a kiss to him, and getting one back from him. I will never forget the roar like a lion, he made when he read The Lion King. His greatest love was for balls and bubbles and Barney – whenever we saw Ruan in the waiting room and he was in need of some cheering up, Nanna would bring out her bottle of bubbles and she would get shrieks of delight and smiles of joy from Ruan as he tried to catch and point to the bubbles. Nanna even became known as Ouma Bubbles to Ruan. We were delighted to attend Ruans golf day in July last year – held to raise the money to find a donor for the stem cell transplant. Ruan was in great spirits, running around hitting his golf ball and stealing everyones hearts. We were heartbroken to see Ruan at the CHOC Christmas party, so frail , not able to even eat or drink, and in lots of pain. Barney was hands down Ruans favourite guy! He had every Barney dvd you could think of and every book to. I actually wrote into Highvelds Christmas wishlist to get Barney to go and visit Ruan. When that didn’t turn out I was delighted to visit Ruan on the 23rd of December to deliver him a Barney nearly as big as him, he loved him. I was devastated though to see the immense amount of pain Ruan was in. But still kept the Faith and trust in Our Lord that Ruan would be healed. Our Lord has now revealed to us, that Ruans healing is not of this world, but with Him in heaven.

Ruan, we love you , we will miss you more then you can imagine. You fought such a brave fight, you are our hero. I promise you I will continue to be there for your mommy and your ouma and oupa whenever they need me, and you will always always be a part of our prayers, our hearts and souls, we will never ever forget you. “ I love you, you love me , we’re best friends as we should be, with a great big hug and a kiss from me to you, wont you say you love me to?’

God bless, and thank you for your prayers, Love
Mark Samm Deqlan Logan
Ouma Bubbles and Uncle Derek
Meggie, Conrad and Keaton
Our Circle of Moms prayer group
Deqlans prayer army



Debbie said...

That is very sad news........Ruan´s family will be in my prayers as i can not think of a greater heart ache than to loose a child...........

Ferreira Family said...

Hi Samm,

We will keep Ruan & his family in our prayers.

Some words for Deqlan & You guys:

Peace is not the absence of trouble, it is the presence of God
> You are strong... when you take your grief and teach it to smile.
> You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help others to do the same.
> You are happy... when you see a flower and are thankful for the blessing.
> You love... when your own pain does not blind you to the pain of others.
> You are wise... when you know the limits of your wisdom.
> You are true... when you admit there are times you fool yourself.
> You are alive... when tomorrows hope means more to you than yesterday's mistake.
> You are growing... when you know that you are but not what you are becoming.
> You are free... when you are in control of yourself but do not wish to
> control others.
> You are honourable... when you find your honour is to honour others.
> You are generous... when you can give as sweetly as you take.

> You are humble... when you do not know how humble you are.
> You are beautiful... when you don't need a mirror to tell you.
> You are rich... when you never need more than you have.
> You are you... when you are at peace with who you are not.


Anonymous said...

As I read this I can't hold back the tears, be certain that this family will be in ours prayers and hearts, I can't imagine the pain. Oh Lord please be with this family.